In the age of digital communication, the art of texting has become a crucial part of dating.
Texting is not only a way to contact and connect with a partner but also to share emotions and strengthen the relationship.
A recent incident involving a Gen-Z woman and a millennial man has sparked a debate about post-date texting etiquette.
A woman shared millennial man's text after their first date
In the footage, a gen Z woman, named Elizabeth Castaldi, from the United States, gained attention on social media after sharing a screenshot of a text she received from her 35-year-old date.
A 27-year-old woman shared the text, which left her baffled after a millennial man's text.
The text read: "Hey, had fun last night. Have a good day."
Elizabeth questioned whether Was the man simply a bad texter, or was his age showing?
The incident divided opinions on TikTok. Some users sided with Elizabeth, finding the man's text to be curt and impersonal. Others, however, saw no issue with the message, arguing that it wasn't inherently rude or negative.
One person said: her date was 'a bad texter' or whether he was simply '35', prompting some viewers to weigh in.
A second wrote: As someone around this age, men just send dry texts. To some of them just making sure to text, checkin, plan. etc. shows interest. I would just be yourself and if you want to text more end on a ?.
While a third commented: so sad lmfao why can't people just show they are more interested from the start ahh well.... dry ass texts
Another added: I’m 28. The first text wasn’t the worst thing the world. Have a nice day is a signal that’s giving I’ll text you after work or I’ll text you tomorrow. Did he ever reply?
Someone else said: You’re quite mistaken about men. Don’t know about you young people and your “etiquette”. Men have been pussified into being leery of anything with a woman they barely know. Woman have men cautious.
After the incident, viewers discussed the Millennial man's text, and the dating expert shared her views in an interview with UNILAD.
UNILAD consulted Nicky Wake, a relationship expert and founder of the dating app Chapter2.
Wake then share her advice about post-date texting etiquette.
In the interview with UNILAD, Wake recommends adopting a strategy of thoughtful communication, active engagement, and genuine expression while texting.
According to Wake, the man's text could indeed be confusing. While it initially seems positive, the abruptness of the phrase "Have a good day" could leave one questioning his intentions.
Wake suggests that the lack of a follow-up question about Elizabeth's experience on the date or her day might indicate a lack of interest in further communication.
Wake explained: "On first glance, it does come across positive, and shows that he did have a good time on the date, however the abruptness of the next sentence, ‘have a good day’
"Whilst it might not seem that he doesn’t want to see her again, not asking a question on if she had a good date too, or how her day was going, indicates that he has no desire to communicate with her further, and the text could look like a tick box from him that he does after every date he goes on." She added.
Engage actively and express genuine interest. Responding promptly to messages signals eagerness and interest.
She advised that it keeps the conversation flowing and demonstrates that you value the other person's time.
Additionally, she advised using an upbeat and positive tone. Incorporate exclamation points or emojis to convey enthusiasm and warmth.
